Tuesday, September 1, 2009

The Power of Romance

Romance and sex are all to often confused or lumped together as if they are the same thing. Well they're not and the reason I say that is because romance is the creation of an atmosphere where one feels reverenced, unconditional love and appreciation. Sex is an act that works best when coupled with romance. Getting it right brings us to the other element that's often left out of the conversation which is intimacy.
There are some men who will never understand the importance of romance and are not willing to invest the energy into obtaining the ultimate benefits from it. Some men may be lazy or think it's silly to invest in romance. It's a foolish mistake and can lead to a woman seeking this important aspect of the marriage elsewhere as in outside of the marriage. When I hear talk of such men I often think about the song by the duo Sherelle and Alexander O'Neil and the lyrics that she sings while talking to another man outside of her relationship; "Your giving me everything I miss at home".
Then there are the men who know the secrets of romance. I think that women are so crazy about watching the reality shows such as the Bachelor and Who Wants to Marry (whatever), because it's pretty obvious the men who are the most romantic stick around the longest and are chosen in the end. Why? You may think it's because they are rich, good looking, have great jobs, or any of the obvious reasons! Not, they realize that power of romance.
And what do these romantic guys do? Simple things like: 1. light candles 2. pick flowers 3. look at the stars 4. have a picnic or romantic dinner nothing you can't do with ease.
Men may not want to believe it but, it's the small things that matter most to a woman when it comes to romance. You can simply turn down the lights, turn on the music, take her by the hand and ask her to dance when no one's watching, that's romance. Hand her a bunch of wild flowers, go for a stroll holding hands. That's romance. Get it? It's in these moments when she feels as though she's the most important woman in the world to you. She feels appreciated and loved and because of the romance she may even feel butterflies in her stomach.
Whoa the passion and excitement that she's feeling for you will not only manifest itself in sex, but will also spill over into the overall relationship. If you're not the romantic type don't be alarmed if once you don't succeed. Since she's not use to it or may have been hurt by you she may feel that your only doing it for sex. It may take a few romantic encounters to achieve the best results. Hang in there, the payoff is within reach and well worth it. Above all, you will have a fulfilling relationship where you will have fun discovering each other!


Michael and Annalea said...

WOW! What a powerful post! Romance is SO important to a woman and, if men would relax and enjoy the giving of it, they will absolutely love being on the receiving end just as much as their special lady does.

This may not sound too romantic, but last night, my husband was out and I realized that I'd forgotten to get milk when I was out earlier (we had absolutely none). I had no way of contacting him to ask him to pick some up and was fretting over one of us having to go out again when he came back.

Well, guess who came home with a gallon of milk when he came home?!? When I saw it I said, "You're a SUPERstar!!!!"

Now THAT'S romance! Thinking ahead, thinking of what's needed, blessing & serving all wrapped up into one little old jug of milk :-)

Embodied Success said...

You nailed it with this post! Some men just forget the importance of being romantic and how important is for a woman and for a relationship. It's a "give and take" type of thing. We want romance, they want sex. To have sex they need to show us romance!. :D

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