Ooops...sorry this Wednesday' s Wisdom is 5 minutes late! I did do some research in preparation for today's (yesterday's) tip earlier this week. I've been thinking and reading a lot about the most important components of a marriage. I've been seeing and hearing so much about romance, money, communication and infidelity. Getting it right in all of these areas, will strengthen the marriage and keep the romance alive within the relationship!dd
Such a hot topic these days, marriage! Some people say it's due to the financial crisis. It's either making the relationship stronger, or breaking it. I agree to a point, but I've just never been the type of person to blame default of any kind on circumstances.d
Life is full of choices and we get to choose for the most part. In marriage by now we all know that it's work. In hard times the work is even harder. When I hear people say "what's love got to do with it?", it makes me cringe. Love has everything to do with it including a commitment to love.
If your marriage is in trouble or showing signs that it's headed for trouble, always, always remember the love. Think about the good things that brought you together. Even if you feel you've out grown the other person, take their hand and pull them up. Think of it this way, your in it together and your not the enemy. Take time out to really talk about whatever is on your mind in a healthy way. No screaming and shouting or name calling. If you feel provoked ask your mate to listen with an open mind and if they would please think about what you've said before responding.
Most importantly get help when it's no longer manageable. First take an in depth look inside of yourself and be honest with yourself. Are there things that you can do to actually bring about a positive change in your relationship?