Wednesday, July 15, 2009

Wednesday Wisdom...A Romantic Tip!

Don't compare your marriage to other marriages and what you may simply THINK is the perfect couple!

1. What you see: The couple that equally share's the chores
Not so fast: If it's really annoying to you that your friend's hubby seems happy to scrub the kitchen after making a delicious meal, then it's obvious that your hubby isn't. But have you ever considered your approach? Nagging, complaining and comparing him won't ever work so do yourself a favor don't bother. Instead, thank him for taking care of the laundry and perhaps swap chores. Let something that he didn't do go and give praise where it's due. Also, don't blow your top if he does a chore differently than you would or leave his clothes in the floor. Chances are, he'll be more willing to help around the house if you stop cracking the whip.

2. What you see: The honey, baby, sweetie couple that seems to never fight — not ever.
Not so fast: Fighting really isn't always a bad thing, as long as you aren't violent or nasty towards each other. A good fight when fought fairly can yield great results that you can both benefit from. In fact, research shows that some couples are often energized by healthy verbal arguments. If your friend says that her and her husband never fight, don't worry an argument is on the way, or perhaps she's not being honest with you. Maybe she wants to impress you or make you jealous.

3. What you see: The couple with all of the material things, oh and even the adorable doggie!
Not so fast: Don't get caught up in being jealous over what seems to be a couple living the high life. The luxury home, the Mercedes or BMW that's making you green with envy. The key thing is to keep it real for you and your emotions in check. Be happy for your friends and think of it this way, you never know what kind of debt they may be in. If their in great financial shape and you're comfortable, ask them how they did it and where did they start. If they're true friends, they'll be more than happy to share information with you including investing tips or give you the scoop on where to get the best deals etc. right down to the dog!

4. What you see: They can't seem to keep their hands (and lips) off each other.
Not so fast: This has got to be one of the most annoying things right? I know you've heard the term get a room. Just because couples feel the need to express themselves, doesn't mean they're more in love than couples that are not so public with displaying affection. You may be surprised how many couples are all hot in public and subzero in private. If your jealous of the couple, ask yourself is it because you want to actually be closer, or do you just want to put on a show for your friends? True intimacy should never be based on what you see but what you know for sure. Like what really goes on behind closed doors.


Carol said...

This is such a great post, it let us know to be thankful for what we have and to make the best of what we have.

Much Love to you!

Romantic Decorating and Design said...

Thanks Carol!It can be tuff at times trying to make the best of any situation. I was taught to always give it your all and don't give up, so I just have the notion down in my soul! When you give it your all and things don't work out you will not feel so stressed about it because you can look back and say, I did my personal best!

Thanks again for your comment!

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