Sustaining love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It will never just happen! You can't just "find" love that last. You have to "make" it last day in and day out. It's a constant work that has to be done. You have to give your relationship a check-up. Just like you get your car tuned-up and you get your annual health check-up. Doing the same thing for your relationship is a necessity! Things can grow stale with the same old busy routine that often dominates our life together!
That's why we have the expression "the labor of love," because it takes time, effort, and energy. Most importantly, it takes wisdom! You have to know what to do to make your marriage work. Make no mistake about it. Love is not a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed in your relationship.l
If you need help, you can seek help from a professional or look for positive books to read together or read for yourself and share what you've learned. Go online and read, there are so many good articles and Ezines out there with great free advise. Most importantly take time out for one another. Time away where you can really focus on each other and re-ignite the flames. Rest and renew, set goals, dream, focus on the good in each other and set a time for your next escape, so you both have something to look forward to!