I love this excerpt!!
It's really very, very, true! I have to say that when the idea for "Creations of Love Inc., Romantic Decorating and design Service" was under way and started to bloom, this is exactly what we had in mind!
Spending an evening of un-interupted time together, at home or away from home, re-connecting in non-verbal ways can be very exciting, especially when the mood is set for you by us!
Written on October 3, 2008 by David C. Sarnackil
CNN and Oprah.com.......a
suggest we focus on connecting nonverbally with compassion for each other and with touch, sex, doing things together, and sharing moments together. Barbara Graham writes (excerpt):“It’s the connection, stupid!” exclaims Love, quickly adding that it’s not me personally she’s calling stupid. “Everyone — men, women, myself included — needs to learn that before we can communicate with words, we need to connect nonverbally. We can do that in simple ways, through touch, sex, doing things together. The deepest moments of intimacy occur when you’re not talking.” Stosny puts it this way: “We need to stop trying to assess the bonding verbally and instead let the words come out of the bonding.” Interestingly, he adds, “When couples feel connected, men want to talk more and women need to talk less, so they meet somewhere in the middle. Being aware of the fear-shame dynamic helps.”